Think Differently · Dr Amanda Mullin

Regulate. Relate. Reason.

I love sharing simple parenting tips that actually help, and the 3 R's is one of those strategies you can take anywhere and use anywhere: the car, the supermarket, the bedtime that's gone sideways.

Most of the parents I work with have been starting at Reason. Asking questions, explaining, trying to bring logic online while their child is still flooded. It isn't just "stop" or "calm down" that misses. Even the kind questions, "how can I help?", "what do you need?", land badly when the timing's wrong, and then everyone's frustrated.

So next time your child's behaviour is hard, I'd love you to try this. Start at 1, notice what happens, and be curious about it rather than hard on yourself. That's all.

Warmly,
Amanda

Tap a step for things to try. Start at 1, even when it feels like you should be starting at 3.

Keep this on your phone

So it's there at 5pm, not somewhere in your emails.

iPhone: tap the share icon at the bottom of Safari, then "Add to Home Screen".
Android: tap the three dots in Chrome, then "Add to Home screen".
Name it "3 R's". It opens like an app.

Know another parent who'd want this?

The best thing you can do with a tool that works is hand it on. This sends a short message with the link.

Hi, I'm Dr Amanda

I'm a clinical psychologist, a speaker, and a parent, and I have ADHD myself. I know what it's like to be the grown-up in the kitchen at 5pm with a brain that's already had a big day. I'm passionate about helping families understand what's really going on for their kids so home can feel calmer, and I love creating tools like this one that make a real difference on an ordinary Tuesday.

If you'd like more, come and find me on Instagram or Facebook, or join my online program Parenting an ADHDer, for parents of kids and young people aged 2 to 22.

Regulate, Relate, Reason is Dr Bruce Perry's sequence from the Neurosequential Model. The things to try are mine.