A free tool for parents · Dr Amanda Mullin

When your child goes from fine to not fine

Three steps, in order, for the moment it all tips over: Regulate. Relate. Reason.

Most of the parents I work with have been starting at step 3 – asking questions, explaining, trying to reason with a child who's still flooded. This shows you where to start instead, with things to try and words to say at each step.

Free. Keeps on your phone like an app.

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What's inside

Tap a step and you'll get why it matters, a few things to try, something to say, and what to leave until later. It works in the car, in the supermarket, and at the bedtime that's gone sideways.

If you only remember one thing: start at 1, even when it feels like you should be starting at 3.

Hi, I'm Dr Amanda

I'm a clinical psychologist, a speaker, and a parent, and I have ADHD myself. I know what it's like to be the grown-up in the kitchen at 5pm with a brain that's already had a big day. I love making tools like this one that make a real difference on an ordinary Tuesday.

If you'd like more, my online program Parenting an ADHDer is for parents of kids and young people aged 2 to 22.

Regulate, Relate, Reason is Dr Bruce Perry's sequence from the Neurosequential Model. The things to try are mine.